Laziness is rarely the issue.
What looks like procrastination or lack of motivation is often your nervous system signaling burnout, decision fatigue, or emotional overload.
If you find yourself scrolling, snacking, zoning out, or avoiding that one thing you “should” be doing—it’s not a character flaw. It’s a coping strategy.
You’re not avoiding the task... you’re avoiding the internal pressure attached to it.
When the cost of doing one more thing feels heavier than the cost of disappointing someone, that’s not laziness—that’s your body calling for a reset.
What I Want You to Start Noticing
- Pay attention to when you go numb, distract, or delay.
- Instead of judging it, get curious: What am I protecting myself from right now?
Tiny To-Do
- Choose one recurring avoidance behavior (scrolling, over-planning, cleaning).
- When it happens next, pause and write down what you were feeling just before you reached for it.
Reflection Prompt
- What tasks or situations trigger your avoidance patterns the most?
- What pressure or expectation is underneath those moments?
- What would it look like to offer yourself grace, instead of guilt, in those pauses?
