You’re not stuck. You’re just scared to claim your power.
It’s easier to say “I had to…” than it is to say “I chose to…”
Why?
Because ownership feels risky.
If we choose it, we have to live with it.
But if we blame someone else, we can stay safe in our discomfort.
Here’s the truth:
Agency and responsibility are the doorway to freedom.
Victim thinking might feel safer in the short-term, but it’s not how you reclaim your life.
Owning your choices doesn’t mean you caused everything that happened to you.
It means you’re willing to lead your response from here.
It means you stop waiting for someone to rescue you—and start realizing you’re already equipped.
Language Check Exercise:
Journal one recent choice you blamed on someone or something else.
Then rewrite the narrative using active language that restores agency.
Prompt:
“Where have I been passive in my own life—and how would I rewrite that moment as the leader of it?”
Mini Scenario:
You agree to something you don’t want to do.
You tell yourself it’s “just easier this way.”
But later, you feel drained and resentful.
Not because someone forced you—
But because you didn’t feel safe enough to choose for yourself.
So instead, you disappeared in your own life… again.
Reflection Prompts:
- Where do I tend to blame others, even subtly, for how I feel or live?
- What would shift if I started owning those moments as my choice—without shame?
- What’s one area of my life I want to take back ownership of this week?
- How can I start using language that reflects my power instead of hiding it?
